Break
up for us teenagers, especially on us women, is one of considered nightmares
that are next on lot of crying, sleepless nights and day of expectations and desperation Because women are too emotional and sensitive, they have lot of
moving-on days than men who can easily forget the feeling after engaging to
many physical activities. Women are deeply affected and have difficult on
moving on with their life. The most common questions for those who are
experiencing this is, Is there any happiness after break up?
According to many expects, relationship break ups are
just a normal thing and you must consider it. It can happen to anybody; even
those who are not in relationship but in mutual understandings are also
experiencing this. Because there is no perfect relationship, you must expect
that there is no relationship that will always be forever.
Here
are the tips that you can use when you are experiencing heartaches. These are
based on experience of many who've gave their part in order to overcome the
break ups.
- Let it bleed
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If you wanted to cry,
cry it all day. Don’t stop yourself from crying. Crying is the best reliever of
the problem. You can also cry hard on your favorite pillow or write him/her a
letter saying your feelings. By this process, you can pour out your feelings
without getting hurt so hard.
- always pray
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If there’s no one there
to hear your stories, pray and let God be your listener. Forward all the heartaches
that you are feeling and let him know all the details. Open your hopes and
wishes to Him and always seek for solutions.
- never seek happiness to other people –
appreciate your family
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People who are moving
on depends the process on the happiness they can acquired in opposite sex. Most
of people are having relationship to other people just to escape the bad
feelings, but it can only prolong the process. Don’t seek happiness to other people;
appreciate the value of your family. Tell them what you feel because they are
the one who can give best and fitted solution to your problems. Make time for
them and make every minute worth living.
- tell your friends
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Let your friends know
your problems. Tell them what you feel. Tell them that you only need listeners,
not advisers. On the process of moving on, always put in your mind that friends
are the most effective and amazing people that can make you happy. Tell them
what you feel because they can give the right expressions that can make you
overcome the situations.
- make yourself fit and healthy
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Manage your shape and
don’t let it fall because you feel heartaches. Improve yourself. Stay fit and
healthy physically, emotionally and spiritually. If you have plain face, try to
apply things that can boost your beauty. Don’t do it for others, do it for yourself.
- do your favorites
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When you are in
relationship, there are lots of limitations wherein you can no longer do the
things you love. Do it when you are moving on. If you love cooking, cook. If
you wanted art, paint your emotions. Don’t let anyone limit you to do the things
you love because it can shorten your moving on process. And also, stay away
from love songs.
- don’t think about it all the time – make
yourself busy
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Engage yourself to many
works. If you are a student, let the study matters. If you are in vacation,
engage yourself to many traveling and talking to other people. Don’t let
yourself feel alone. Think about the things that really matters to you, feel
free to do all the things you wanted and don’t depend your moving on process to
other people. Even when you are alone, always remember that time will pass fast
if you are making time for yourself.
- don’t be “bitter” anymore
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Being angry with your
ex will only prolong the process because you are the only one who is extremely
affected and will extremely hurt if you stay bitter on your past relationship.
Let it flow and don’t let your day ruin for being angry to him. Just always
pray to overcome the anger.
- never change the topic
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If your friends wanted
to talk about what happened, never change the topic. Let the topic flow until
it become a common topic. Don’t pretend you don’t know him or avoid talking
about him because it can only delay the recovery process. Let him just become a
common topic.
- accept the fact that he/she is gone
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Accepting the fact that
he/she is gone is one of the best ways to cope the pain. Even you and your ex
becomes friends, don’t expect that things will be the same because it can only
give you false hopes. If she/he is trying to come back, give time to think
about it. Don’t just be silly doing things that can only make the situation
back like at your last break ups. Always remember that you need time for
yourself.